
File #017 | Why Obsession Is the Missing Piece in Your Identity Shift
Most women think momentum comes from motivation.
Momentum comes from IMMERSION. Baby steps of obedience; when it looks like nothing is happening, shift into quantum leaps.
Safe space right?
I don’t always obey quickly or move consistently.
I definitely show up at the level I believe rather than what I know God called me to.
I slow down, it feels safer.
I hesitate, it feels safer.
And most days I pull back right when I should lean in.
I’m not ashamed to say that anymore.
Although it’s still a bit tender.
And everyday I’m still learning to confront myself and offer an identity shift.
TL;DR:
Your identity is catching up to your vision.
Stop slowing down.
Time to become OBSESSED!
Accelerate.
All gas no breaks.
You can have what you want this month if you become...
Obsessed...
Dec 1st, walking to work, I literally said out loud:
“I can still make $100k this month.”
lol. Listen and I am so serious.
Wild? Maybe.
Outrageous? Probably.
Possible? With God… absolutely.
What shocked me wasn’t the number;
it was the identity of the woman who said it.
Like who does she think she is?!
As if she's done it before... like she's been doing this for years.
She was bold.
She was clear.
She wasn’t playing small.
She wasn’t apologizing.
She wasn’t calculating odds, she was speaking faith.
And that’s the proof something inside me is changing.
Not results.
Not sales.
Not metrics.
Identity.
Identity always shifts before numbers do.
The sensation is so real in my body... let me share with you the secret for December
Most women think obsession is extreme.
But obsession just means what your nervous system believes is important.
And right now?
Your nervous system is more familiar with survival/delay than success/decisions.
Instead of “maybe one day” we need “this is who I am.”
If you want a quantum leap, you need immersion.
You must flood your environment
your thoughts
your conversations
your language
your habits
your spaces
your energy
your TIME
with the woman you are becoming.
Because the body/mind follows repetition.
Obsession is:
✨ choosing her again every morning
✨ choosing her again at lunch
✨ choosing her again when you’re tired
✨ choosing her again when results lie
✨ choosing her again when your bank account screams “be realistic”
✨ choosing her again when fear asks “who do you think you are?”
✨ choosing her again until your nervous system says
“This is who we are now.”
Obsession isn’t unhealthy when God is the One who gave you the vision.
David obsessed over God.
Solomon obsessed over wisdom.
Nehemiah obsessed over the wall.
Paul obsessed over the Gospel.
Jesus obsessed over His assignment.
Obsession is just devotion in motion.
And THAT is what creates acceleration.
Because the woman who becomes obsessed with her calling
doesn’t wait for results.
She becomes the result.
And here’s the revelation I got this week:
I’m done with the version of me who felt shame and hesitated.
I’m done slowing down when it gets quiet.I’m done waiting for signs when God already spoke.I’m DONE shrinking my gifts to match my doubts.I’m definitely done babysitting the old me when God is trying to reveal the new one.
(which is probably why God keeps putting me around the youth —
because I was the one who needed supervision the most)
She’s not my enemy.
She’s just no longer my identity.
And she doesn’t get a vote in my destiny anymore.
She was fighting failure; can't fail this time, got to win, this is the one, this is the month, Lord help, send the client, I promise I'm ready...
If you're fighting failure like I was then you're not already in the victory like scripture says...
1 Corinthians 15:57 AMP
57 but thanks be to God, who gives us the victory [as conquerors] through our Lord Jesus Christ.
Translation :
Thank God! You've already won.
Act Like it! Walk/Talk like it, Post like it.
Because this realm has no choice but to adjust.
Identity is the engine.
And faith is the gas pedal.
Baby? My foot is on the gas.
If you want your results to change, your internal truth has to change.
And your internal state shifts through obsession-level repetition of the woman you’re becoming.
You cannot casually become her.
You must immerse yourself in her.
Activation | Identity Shift Edition
This week, choose ONE identity shift and act on it immediately:
Baby Step (20 minutes):
“I am the woman who follows through.”
→ Record one Pièce de résistance + post it without editing your confidence down.
Quantum Leap (identity-level action):
“I am the woman who has already won, reality needs to catch up.”
→ Do ONE action your “$100k woman” does today.
Not tomorrow. Today.
Ask yourself:
How does she move?
How does she decide?
How does she show up?
Then mirror her.
Identity FIRST. Evidence follows. Every time.
Your CLEARR Message
Clarity: Admit where you’ve been slowing down, not hiding from it.
Legacy: Your acceleration becomes their permission slip.
Execution: One obedient action shifts the whole frequency.
Authority: Speak as her, not about her.
Radical Responsibility: Put your foot on the gas! God handles the road. (Isaiah 45:2)
Reminder invitations :
Full of Wonder & Expectation,
April Marie
Founder of Worthy of the Build
It's time to Raise UR standards and UR voice...
